Overthinking is Starting to Affect Your Relationships
If you’re constantly overthinking, second-guessing, or trying to get things “right,” it can start to wear on you.
Overthinking and relationship stress sounds like:
– replaying conversations
– worrying about what others are thinking about you
– feeling responsible for how others feel
– stuck between what you need and what others expect
Over time, it becomes harder to know what you actually want, or how to say it clearly. This is where therapy can help.
Meet Shawna
Shawna is a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Qualifying Registered Psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario, offering online therapy across Ontario.
Her work focuses on overthinking, relationship stress, and the internal patterns that lead to self-doubt, people-pleasing, and disconnection from your own needs.
She works especially well with people who are starting to notice that the way they’ve been coping is no longer working, particularly when it begins to affect their relationships.
What This Actually Looks Like
Many people come in thinking:
“I just need to be less sensitive.”
“I need to stop overthinking.”
“I don’t want to be a burden.”
But underneath that, there’s often something else happening:
– You learned to take care of others early
– You became highly aware of other people’s needs
– You started to filter yourself to keep things steady
That worked for a long time.
Now it’s creating tension, confusion, and distance in your relationships.
Shawna’s Therapy Approach
Shawna integrates elements of Motivational Interviewing, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, attachment-based work, and values-based therapy.
In sessions, the focus is on helping you:
– slow down and understand what you’re actually feeling
– notice the patterns driving your reactions
– explore parts of yourself that haven’t felt safe to express
– develop clearer boundaries and communication
This work is not about “fixing” you. It’s about helping you hear your own voice more clearly, and learn how to act from it.
What Changes
As the work deepens, people often notice:
– less overthinking and second-guessing
– clearer decisions and direction
– stronger sense of inner authority
– more honest, steady communication
– improved connection and repair in relationships
You might be a good fit for working with Shawna if:
- You’re trying to figure out what you actually want
- Your mind feels constantly active or hard to shut off
- You struggle to trust your own decisions
- You feel responsible for other people’s emotions
- Your relationships feel strained, confusing, or stuck
PERSONAL NOTE
Shawna’s interest in this work is shaped by her own experience navigating complex family dynamics, frequent transitions, and early relationship responsibilities.
This gives her a grounded understanding of how identity, attachment, and expectations can shape the way people relate to themselves and others.
WHERE THIS FITS
This work is often a good fit in the earlier stages of stress and identity strain, especially when patterns like overthinking, self-doubt, and relationship tension are starting to take a toll.
If you’re feeling deeply burned out, emotionally depleted, or dealing with the long-term impact of high responsibility and pressure, working with Erika may be a better fit. Book with Erika on the pink Book Now button above.